This time I will site instances to show how the categories work using this saved conversation from a chat room. darkknight_heartrider will be the sender and welhelmina019 will be the receiver.
As explained in my previous blog the sender will make a selective self-presentation conveying all the positive thing to the receiver.
darkknight_heartrider@rocketmail.com: hui
welhelmina019: hey
darkknight_heartrider@rocketmail.com: am 22 m from india
welhelmina019: im 17 F from Phil
darkknight_heartrider@rocketmail.com: so what r ur hobbies??
welhelmina019: reading book, watching TV,shopping, and cooking ( i guess)
darkknight_heartrider@rocketmail.com: guess??ha ha ha ha
darkknight_heartrider@rocketmail.com: so not good at that?
welhelmina019: i'm gud at it
welhelmina019: a bit
darkknight_heartrider@rocketmail.com: ok
welhelmina019: and u?
darkknight_heartrider@rocketmail.com: reading books, listening to music
darkknight_heartrider@rocketmail.com: and going out for long walks usually alone
welhelmina019: wats it like living in India?
darkknight_heartrider@rocketmail.com: it would be really fantastic
darkknight_heartrider@rocketmail.com: it can not be explained in words
darkknight_heartrider@rocketmail.com: one must experience it
welhelmina019: I heard its nice there but aren't there bombings there or something?
darkknight_heartrider@rocketmail.com: it happened one month ago
darkknight_heartrider@rocketmail.com: but not in all places
darkknight_heartrider@rocketmail.com: only very few are troublesome
darkknight_heartrider@rocketmail.com: but there are lot of places where u find life worth living
welhelmina019: oh i c
darkknight_heartrider@rocketmail.com: i mean u will love living here
welhelmina019: wats ur fav movie?
darkknight_heartrider@rocketmail.com: i like history related and strategic movies
darkknight_heartrider@rocketmail.com: all time fav is lord of rings
darkknight_heartrider@rocketmail.com: n urs?
welhelmina019: same!
welhelmina019: i like narnia and HP 2 too
darkknight_heartrider@rocketmail.com: HP?
welhelmina019: Harry Potter
darkknight_heartrider@rocketmail.com: oh..ok
darkknight_heartrider@rocketmail.com: did u read the books?
darkknight_heartrider@rocketmail.com: harry potter series?
welhelmina019: not all
welhelmina019: just borrow books from by bestfrined
darkknight_heartrider@rocketmail.com: oh..ok
darkknight_heartrider@rocketmail.com: so how many volumes did u read?
welhelmina019: was able 2 read books 1 and 5
darkknight_heartrider@rocketmail.com: oh..ok
The receiver, the one who will put all the information together, has the tendency to over-attribute that persona that the sender is trying to convey. As you can see in the next sample the receive seems see darkknight_heartrider as a cool, kind, simple person who is fun to be with and can understand the her or can go with any topic in her mind. They seem to have a lot in common. A persona that may be to exaggerated or very far from the real person.
darkknight_heartrider@rocketmail.com: so what do u do?
welhelmina019: typing my report for sckul while chatting
darkknight_heartrider@rocketmail.com: so what is ur report based on?
welhelmina019: cammunication theories....
welhelmina019: i mean communications thoery
darkknight_heartrider@rocketmail.com: oh..ok
darkknight_heartrider@rocketmail.com: am an aeronautical engineering student
welhelmina019: cool!!!
welhelmina019: wats it about?
darkknight_heartrider@rocketmail.com: it deals with aero planes
darkknight_heartrider@rocketmail.com: each and every part of its manufacturing and running
darkknight_heartrider@rocketmail.com: about engines, designing and everything
welhelmina019: oh...really cool!
welhelmina019: u wanna b a pilot after u graduate huh?
darkknight_heartrider@rocketmail.com: no..not a pilot
darkknight_heartrider@rocketmail.com: aeroplane designing and construction
welhelmina019: i c
welhelmina019: must b hard doing all dat math stuff
darkknight_heartrider@rocketmail.com: yeah..a lil bit
darkknight_heartrider@rocketmail.com: arent u interested in maths?
welhelmina019: no!
welhelmina019: i hate math
darkknight_heartrider@rocketmail.com: ha ha ha
welhelmina019: unfortunatle my course also has math
darkknight_heartrider@rocketmail.com: that is my fav subject
welhelmina019: really!
darkknight_heartrider@rocketmail.com: dont worry dear
welhelmina019: i suck at it
darkknight_heartrider@rocketmail.com: u r not gonna suffer too long
welhelmina019: lol
The channel, our time, was not limited. Though I was in the net café I was in open time and so was he. darkknight_heartrider was willing to talk for hours but we have to cut the conversation short since it was past lunch time and I haven’t eaten. Fortunately the medium we used can be used in our most convenient time. Having a conversation with darkknight_heartrider is still possible and it’s not a burden to reply to his e-mails since I’m able to use the net any time I have a free time.
My feed back to him would be a sort of mirror or a looking –glass self for him to see how I see him given the positive information he has given to me. This will make him become the person I perceive him to be whether or not he is conscious of it.
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